“And whosoever kills a believer intentionally, his recompense is Hell to abide therein; and the Wrath and the Curse of Allaah are upon him, and a great punishment is prepared for him”
[The Qur’aan Chapter -al-Nisa’ 4:93]
SubhanAllaah I cannot tell you how many times as a speaker do I hear this question from Muslims and Non-Muslims, “Why does Islaam allow honor killing?” Amazed that people still think this and I just sit for a moment as I gather my thoughts together. I realize that we are all in different places in our lives and that even I once too thought this, “Is Honor Killing allowed in Islaam?”. How beautiful is knowledge and how beautiful it is that it illuminates our hearts from ignorance as we keep learning. Contrary to the saying in the west “Ignorance is Bliss.” For Muslims it is “Knowledge that is Bliss, and Ignorance that ruins lives.” I will be covering what is honor killing, why does it occur, and where does it occur most. I will end with a short true story of honor killing, and how it could have all been prevented, inshAllaah.
What is honor killing? Human Rights Watch defines “honor killings” as follows:
“Honor killings are acts of vengeance, usually death, committed by male family members against female family members, who are held to have brought dishonor upon the family. A woman can be targeted by (individuals within) her family for a variety of reasons, including: refusing to enter into an arranged marriage, being the victim of a sexual assault, seeking a divorce—even from an abusive husband—or (allegedly) committing adultery. The mere perception that a woman has behaved in a way that “dishonors” her family is sufficient to trigger an attack on her life.”
In Wikipedia at the entry of Honor Killings I found this “According to Dr. Shahrzad Mojab, a University of Toronto professor of women’s studies, followers of Hinduism, Islam, Judaism and Christianity have used their religions as a rationale to commit honour killings. However, Mojab stated that honor killings don’t have “any definite connection with religion at all.” She also pointed out that honor killings have been practised before any major religion came into existence. Also according to Widney Brown, the advocacy director of Human Rights Watch, said that the practice “goes across cultures and across religions.” Human rights advocates have compared “honor killing” to “crimes of passion” in Latin America (which are sometimes treated extremely leniently) and also to the killing of women for lack of dowry in India.”
When did honor killings begin?
Christian Arab writer, Norma Khouri, said “honor killings originate from the belief that a woman’s chastity is the property of her families, a cultural norm that dates back to 1200 B.C., under the rule of Hammarabi and other Assyrian tribes. She says this predates Islaam and Christianity. (author of Honor Lost: Love and Death in Modern-Day Jordan)
According to Matthew Goldstein he mentions that the Codes of Hammurabi and Assura, which were written in 1780 BC and 1075 BC respectively, are some of the earliest times where laws prescribed that a woman’s virginity belonged to her family. In the code of Assura it says:
“If a virgin of her own accord give herself to a man, the man shall take oath, against his wife they shall not draw nigh. Threefold the price of a virgin the ravisher shall pay. The father shall do with his daughter what he pleases.”
Goldstein also notes that honor killings were permitted in ancient Rome. He writes that female adultery was a felony and that the state “actively prosecuted” male family members who did not “take action” against the women in their family. Shockingly, the Roman statesman Cato said:
“If you catch your wife in adultery, you can kill her with impunity…”
Let’s look at what people call great literature today, did you know that “Lavinia, in Shakespeare’s Titus Andronicus, is killed by her father after having been raped and mutilated. Also how about in Lewis Grassic Gibbon’s novel Spartacus the Romans are described as killing their women who had been raped by the rebel slaves. In ancient Rome, being raped was seen as dishonorable to the point of destroying a woman’s life and reputation, and honor killing was supposed to be a “merciful” act. The origin of honor killings and the control of women is evidenced throughout history in the culture and tradition of many regions. Roman law Pater familias gave complete control to the men of the family for both their children and wives. Under these laws, the lives of children and wives were at the sole discretion of the men in their family. Ancient Roman Law also established historical roots of honor killings through his law stating that women found guilty of adultery could be killed by their husband in whatever manner the husband desired. In Greece, the lives of women were too dictated by their husbands as women were considered socially below males. It has been noted how in ancient Babylonian, Egypt, Chinese, North American Native American tribes and Persian cultures, women convicted of adultery were subjected to extreme punishments. In Babylonian societies, women suspected of adultery were forced to throw themselves into a river to prove they were innocent. In Egyptian culture, imprisonment, flogging, or mutilation were common punishments for women who had been convicted of adultery. Chinese culture suggested that husbands cut off the hair of adulterous women and then lead them to their death by an elephant trained to kill. Some Native American tribes punished adulterous women by cutting off their limbs and mutilating their bodies. In Persia, adulterous women were left to die after being placed into a well. (http://www.islamicawakening.com/viewarticle.php?articleID=1330)
There is much more information that can be said about the history of Honor Killing, but as for this article I feel that you have gotten the message that honor killing did not begin with Islaam. It was there prior to Islaam and it still is done to woman, men and children around the world, only different titles are used. They all fall into one category, which is wrongful death. As for those who say Islaam allows it, let’s see if what they say is true.
According to the fatwa website it says: http://islamqa.info/en/ref/101972
‘Ibn ‘Umar (may Allaah be pleased with him) said that the Messenger of Allaah (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said:
“The believer will continue to be encompassed by the mercy of Allaah so long as he does not shed blood that it is forbidden to shed.”
So you see the killing of a Muslim unlawfully is a serious matter and a grave crime.
Shaykh Muhammad S. Al-Munajjid says:
“The Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) has explained to us the reasons for which it becomes permissible to shed this blood. He said: “It is not permissible to shed the blood of a Muslim who bears witness that there is no god but Allaah and that I am the Messenger of Allaah except in three cases: a life for a life (murder), zina of one of who is previously-married (adultery), and the one who changes his religion and forsakes the jamaa’ah.” Narrated by al-Bukhaari (6370) and Muslim (3175). From this it is clear that zina on the part of one who is married is one of the reasons that make it permissible to kill a person, but the zaani (adulterer) cannot be killed unless two conditions are met:
He should be previously-married. The scholars have explained what is meant by previously-married in this case. Zakariya al-Ansaari (may Allaah have mercy on him) said in Asna’l-Mataalib (4/128): The previously-married person, whether male or female, is any adult of sound mind who has previously had intercourse within a valid marriage. End quote. Shaykh Ibn ‘Uthaymeen (may Allaah have mercy on him) said in al-Sharh al-Zaad (6/120): There are five conditions for (being described as) previously-married:
2- Within a valid marriage
3- Being an adult
4- Being of sound reason
5- Being free (i.e., not a slave).
The second condition is that it should be proven that the hadd punishment is deserved, by the testimony of four male witnesses who saw the private parts meet, or the person should freely admit to having committed zina, without being forced to do so.
If it is proven that he deserves the hadd punishment, it is not permissible for individuals to carry out this punishment themselves. Rather the matter must be referred to the ruler or his deputy to prove the crime and carry out the punishment, because if individuals carry out hadd punishments, that will lead to a great deal of corruption and evil.
Ibn Muflih al-Hanbali (may Allaah have mercy on him) said in “al-Furoo’ (6/53): It is haraam for anyone to carry out a hadd punishment except the ruler or his deputy. This is something on which the fuqaha’ of Islam are unanimously agreed, as was stated in al-Mawsoo’ah al-Fiqhiyyah (5/280): The fuqaha’ are unanimously agreed that the one who should carry out hadd punishments is the ruler or his deputy, whether the punishment is transgressing one of the limits of Allaah, may He be exalted, such as zina, or a transgression against another person, such as slander.”
You see for one to concealing this evil deed which has taken place so that he may repent and set his affairs straight before he dies is better than exposing him, let alone killing him.
The Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) turned away from Maa’iz (may Allaah be pleased with him) after he admitted committing zina, and he ignored him until he had repeated his confession several times, then he carried out the hadd punishment on him.
Based on all of the information that I have given you, I pray now that you can understand that honor killing has no place in Islaam.
“And those who invoke not any other ilaah (god) along with Allaah, nor kill such person as Allaah has forbidden, except for just cause, nor commit illegal sexual intercourse ___ and whoever does this shall receive the punishment. The torment will be doubled to him on the Day of Resurrection, and he will abide therein in disgrace.”
Again regardless the person who has committed a major crime of zinna, while being married, will be punished weather in this life or the hereafter should they not repent and Allaah subhana wa Tala not forgive him/her. And if what they did is true then it is up to that government their living in to take charge of the situation not individuals, and the government needs proof of 4 witnesses- who saw this evil deed occur. Most of the time honor killings are done with mere suspicion, speculation, and accusation.’
So you see honor killings do not exist in Islaam. Whoever began this and continues doing this is on the wrong path. We must all as Muslims adhere to the Qur’aan and Sunnah and not our desires.
Story of the Most Recent Honor Killing- January 30th, 2012.
“An Afghan father, his wife and their son have been jailed for life after a jury found them guilty of killing three teenage sisters and a co-wife in what the judge described as a ‘despicable’ and ‘heinous’ crime.
The jury had taken 15 hours to find Mohammad Shafia, 58, his wife Tooba Yahya, 42; and their son Hamed, 21, each guilty of four counts of first-degree murder.
The four bodies were found in June 2009 in a car submerged in a canal in Kingston, Ontario, where the family had stopped for the night on their way home from Niagara Falls.
Prosecutors said the daughters were killed because they dishonored the family by defying rules on dress, dating, socializing, having boy-friends, and going online.”
Read more: http://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-2093513/Afghan-family-guilty-honour-killing-Canada.html#ixzz1oGVGUJi8
While this story is definitely a true one. It is a sad one. How can a Muslim family avoid this type of situation in the future?
1. The parents need to educate themselves on the deen of Islaam.
2. The parents need to be the example of honorable people first.
3. The parents need to educate and raise their children about Islaam and the importance about being righteous.
4. They need to talk to the Imams, and Sheikhs on how to properly deal with their situations. What is the proper way in Islaam to talk to their kids about right and wrong.
5. Be patient and asking Allaah (subhana wa Tala) for help through this difficult time by prayers and supplications. .
You see many women are motivated when they are not pregnant and when they know they must lose weight, but how about when you find out your pregnant. I know that every time I found out I was pregnant it is as if the news alone made me lose 60% of energy. SubhanAllaah, so if we lose energy just knowing then how can we push ourselves to exercise when all we want to do is either throw up the first 3 months or eat like there is no tomorrow?
After the 3 months are over all we do is like to eat…cravings begin for most pregnant women. Then many of us give ourselves the excuse it is because we are pregnant. It is ok to be lazy now and eat for we are pregnant. Also because we are pregnant we think it is ok to exercise when the baby is out, for we are too tired. However sister’s is it really ok? As much as I want to say yes, the answer is NO. I was one of these pregnant women in the past with my first pregnancy, and I gained 70 pounds while my daughter was born pre-mature and only 3.2 lbs at birth. I learned my lesson very quick after that pregnancy, for it took me about 1 year to lose all of the weight.
The question is how do we not gain as much weight while we are pregnant? The first thing we need to do is not feel sorry for ourselves and by the way Shaytann helps us with that.
We need to remember that Allaah (Subhana wa Tala) said:
“…Eat and drink, but waste not by excess, for Allah loves not wasters.”
So while we may want more food and while we want to be lazy we need to remember that is not the key to a successful pregnancy. A successful pregnancy is eating enough, walking a lot and remembering Allaah (swt) often and knowing that you will be asked about all that you did even while you were pregnant. If your hungry make sure that you have lots of fruits and vegetables with you always. This will force you to eat the good food inshAllaah. So here is a list of simple steps to be motivated while pregnant inshAllaah:
- Remember Allaah (Subhana wa Tala) always and ask Him for help when you feel that your getting weak or caving into your desires too much.
- Buy lots of fruits and vegetables.
- Drink lots of water.
- Walk 10 minutes for every hour your awake, inshAllaah
The rights of Allaah (SWT) are many. SubhanAllaah imagine, it is because of Him we are here, because of Him we have everything we need and so much more. This means to us that we need to make sure that His rights are at the highest. That we obey Him and make sure that in everything we do His rights are met first and foremost. What I will be discussing in this article is three things inshAllaah. Allaah (SWT) as our Creator, Allaah (SWT) as our sustainer, and Allaah (SWT)’s commands on us. These three things alone could be 1000’s of pages, however for the purpose of time, and for the benefit of everyone inshAllaah I will be condensing this article to only a few pages.
Allaah (SWT) as our Creator. It is only because of Allaah (SWT) that we are in this dunya. Nothing and none one exists unless Allaah (SWT) wills it. It is only because of Allaah (SWT) that we even came to be. So, He decided for us to be born, put us in our mother’s womb, and took care of us while we were there. Once we were born, He made sure we had enough sustenance to be taken care of. He knows everything we are going through, our deepest fears, and what makes us happy. He knows our strengths and our weaknesses and He knows which path we are choosing to take. He sees and hears everything, and knows us better than we know ourselves. I have listed a few verses for all of us to reflect on inshAllaah as Allaah (SWT) our Creator.
“And He it is Who created the night and the day, and sun and the moon. They float each in an orbit… And from among His signs are the night and the day, and the sun and the moon. Prostrate not to the sun nor to the moon, but prostrate to Allaah Who created them, if you (really) worship Him.”
(The Quraan Chapter 21: Verse: 33, and Chapter 41: Verse 37)
“He has created man: He has imparted unto him articulate thought and speech. [At His behest] the sun and the moon run their appointed courses; the stars and the trees prostrate themselves [before Him]. And the skies has He raised high, and has devised [for all things] a measure, so that you [too, O men,] might never transgress the measure [of what is right]: weigh, therefore, [your deeds] with equity, and cut not the measure short!”
(The Quraan Chapter 55: Verses 3-9)
“It is Allah Who created life and death that you may prove yourself worthy in your deeds.”
(The Quraan Chapter: 67: Verse 2)
“Such is Allah, your Lord. There is no god except Him, the Creator of all things, so serve Him. And He takes care of all things.”
(The Quraan Chapter: 6: Verse 102)
My dearest sisters I want you to reflect on the verses above, of why Allaah (SWT) created us, and what He expects from us. We were created simply to serve Him the way He has asked to be served. He has given us all of his rules either through the Quraan or the Sunnah of the Prophet Muhammad (SAAW). It is the duty of each one of us to go out there and learn it inshAllaah, to make sure we are on the right path.
Allaah (SWT) as our sustainer. Allaah (SWT) is not only the one who created us, but He is the one who takes care of us at all times. You see as humans and Muslims, many of us have very little knowledge about who Allaah (SWT) really is and His attributes.
Allaah (SWT) tells us:
“Say: ‘Who gives you sustenance from the heavens and the Earth?’ Say: ‘It is Allaah.’”
[Sūrah Saba`: 24]
Allaah says: “O humankind! Remember Allah’s grace toward you! Is there any creator besides Allaah who provides for you from the heavens and the Earth? There is no God save Him. How then are you turned away?”
[Sūrah Fātir: 3]
SubhanAllaah hearing this, one should know that there is no one like Allaah (SWT). However, you must remember that this does not contradict us working for a living. You see one of the rights that Allaah (SWT) has over us, is us being able to work for a living and taking care of our families. He does not want us to be lazy and sit around for handouts. He wants us to earn a living, and that is why earning a living to take care of our families is also known as ibida when done for the sake of Allaah (SWT). However, you must understand that at times we work hard, but we see no results from our hard work, and that is ok. That does not mean that we quit working hard, it only means we need to humble ourselves and keep working hard while asking Allaah (SWT) to bless our time and money and help us by giving us barakah in our money and time.
Allaah says: “Who is it that will give you sustenance if He should withhold His sustenance? Nay, but they are set in pride and frowardness.”
[Sūrah al-Mulk: 21]
Prophet Muhammad (PBUH) used to beseech his Lord with the supplication: “O Allah! There is no one to prevent what You choose to give, and no one to give what You choose to withhold. And no one’s efforts will avail them against Your will.”
[Sahīh al-Bukhārī and Sahīh Muslim ]
While we all know that our wealth and what we own does not bring us true happiness or true benefit. We tend to forget that it is Allah (SWT) who either gives it to us or takes it away from us. If He chooses to give, no one can take it away from us, and if He chooses to take it away from us, no one can help us. SubhanAllaah. However, this does not mean that we stop working hard, and think whatever comes my way, that is what I will get. We must work hard, and take advantage of the opportunities that Allaah (SWT) puts in our path. Weather those opportunities are successful or not, that is up to the Almighty. However we must still do our part inshAllaah. What is vital to remember is that we do not put our faith in the opportunities. Our faith and trust must be placed with Allaah (SWT). We must always have Taqwa (consciousness of Allaah swt) in all that we do, and ask Him for guidance for the correct path. You see as humans we might be thinking a certain path is correct for us, whereas it might not be. We can never be certain of it, so we take a path that we think is most fit for us, while praying for guidance from Allaah (SWT). Our goals should always be aligned with pleasing our Lord, and since we know that he is our sustainer, we should be content with whatever outcome He gives us. We own nothing, including ourselves. Everything belongs to Allaah (SWT); we only possess it for a limited time, while we are on earth. We must always remember this, inshAllaah. I want you to think for a moment of all of Allaah (SWT)’s creatures, and how each one has food SubhanAllaah. Allaah swt provides for all of us, weather we reflect on it or not, it is true.
Allaah (SWT)’s command on us. You know as a child I never understood this, and always thought Allaah (SWT) wanted us to be kind and nice, and not lie, or steal. I thought SubhanAllaah His commands were very few. I truly did not understand all that He had requested from us, until I became much older and discovered Islaam as an adult. When I began studying Islaam is when I realized how far I was from obeying His commands. SubhanAllaah. So you may be asking Zohra what are the commands of Allaah (SWT) on us? Well there are many, and all of them are in line with our way of life. The commands are not very difficult once we understand the underlying reasons of each one. At first for a person who is so absorbed in dunya it may seem hard to obey these rules, for they have been doing the opposite all of their lives. However, sisters once you submit with your full heart and soul, and start to implement these commands then inshAllaah you will see that not only are you happier, but life seems so much more fulfilling. We were created a certain way, and if we as humans went with that natural way, then there would be no fighting ourselves. Allaah knows best. I will mention a list of 10 commands as a reminder inshAllaah!
- Do not make partners with Allaah (SWT).
- Fulfilling the 5 prayers daily.
- Fasting in the Month of Ramadan.
- Paying Zakat to the poor.
- Planning a pilgrimage to hajj.
- Treating your parents with kindness and gentleness.
- Do not go near Zinna, Adultery, backbiting, slander, etc.
- Wearing the hijab.
- Being just and fair in all situations.
- Controlling our tongues at all times.
This is not all of Allaah (SWT)’s commands, but 10 of the most important ones. There are many more, however due to time, I will only focus on these 10 inshAllaah. While we all may have heard of these commands, are we following them to the best of our abilities? Think about. Reflect on your life daily, how many of us truly follow all of them, and if you can admit to not following all of them, then maybe it is time that we began working on the areas where we are weak inshAllaah.
After all Allaah (SWT) created us, give us sustenance and He commands us to do good, and stay away from evil. How can we not obey? A true believer submits in Islaam, there is no questioning Allaah (SWT)’s commands, if something may seem difficult to obey right away we must work on it daily inshAllaah and pray to Allaah (SWT) to help us follow His rights, His commands. He knows what is best for us, and should we actually follow His advice then inshAllaah we will have success in this life and the hereafter, inshAllaah!
“Walakaium Asalam Wa Rahamtullah Wa Barakatuhu, nothing much Ahmed, just been busy, how have you been?” said Mahmood.
“Alhamdullilah, I have been great, Allaah (SWT) has blessed me with a wonderful wife shortly after I finished College, and now we have 2 beautiful daughters, mashAllaah. I have a good job as an engineer, and I am teaching Quran on Sunday’s to the kids at an Islamic
What are the seven highly effective habits that successful Muslim families must have? SubhanAllaah, this could be at least 100 habits, however today we will only go over 7 of them inshAllaah. The first most effective habit of a Muslim family should be to have tawheed in Allaah (SWT), and how to worship Allaah (SWT). To be able to know who He is and what His characteristics are. The second highly effective habit that every Muslim family must have is worshipping Allaah (SWT) together as a family. The third highly effective habit that every Muslim family must have is knowing who the Prophet (SAAW) is, and practicing his sunnah. The fourth highly effective habit that every Muslim family must have is mercy for the young, and respect for the elders. The fifth highly effective habit that every Muslim family must have is to listen to each other, and learn to communicate with each other. The sixth highly effective habit that every Muslim family must have is constantly learning and growing as a family. The seventh highly effective habit that every Muslim family must have is for them as a family to lead by example.
- Say your prayers. Many people believe in the Creator of the heavens and the earth, and there is no better time to pray to Him, and worship Him then on your last day. However, we all know that we should be praying and worshiping the Creator at all times, but on your last day, make sure that you remember Him, for it is Him your going to at the end.
Often times when I ask this question I hear from people responding “I would never give up an eye for 1 million dollars or more.” This answer makes me think that one’s eye must be very precious to this individual, that they would not give it up for any amount of money. If this is the case then why is it that we Muslims are not thinking about what we will WANT to give up in the grave or on the Day of Judgment?
How many times do we hear speakers or people who are mash’Allaah achieving their goals tell us that motivation is key to their success. Most of the times we roll our eyes, and say “yeah sure, it was motivation. Mash’Allaah they just got lucky!” What I will be going through in this article are: What is motivation? How do we get motivated? How do we keep going when our motivation is burning out?